While it isn’t always easy to honor and speak our truth, here are practical steps to make the process a bit more gentle for you and others. — Have you ever said yes when you meant no? Ever stayed at a party longer than felt good? Or went along with something because you didn’t want to upset anyone? I know I have. Speaking and honoring our yes’ and no’s isn’t something we’re inherently good at. Growing up most…

Putting your Inner Judge and Jury in their place and choosing yourself in the process — What stops us from sharing and revealing ourselves to others? What holds us back from shining as brightly as we believe we can? What causes us to hesitate when we yearn to reach out and to be received? For so many of us, the answer is Judgment. Or to be more precise, self-judgment. It seems all too common (and easy)…

Try as I might, she’s still my main thing. — Over the years, the most challenging relationship in my life has always been with Mary Jane. It started the summer after graduating high school. I had just discovered that my girlfriend broke my trust, and I was in deep distress. The day after I found out, a good friend at the time invited me over and with a warm smile and caring heart, offered me a…

An invitation for men who hear the call of evolved masculinity, a purposeful life, and deep contribution. — It’s been over a decade since I found myself on the path of my Soul’s contribution. While I had no idea when I began the journey what lay before me, I’m grateful for where the road has taken me these past years. I see now how the growing pains that come with evolution, the hard times, the losses, the wins, celebrations, and the wonderings and wanderings…

Is violence in our hearts? How could there not be? — They say revolution is necessary when the people are not heard, Yet who can hear themselves, or each other above noisy needs and demanding desire? Pitted against each other in arenas of complexity & nuance, Our modern day gladiator rings, now unseen and within. Better that we brandish swords and…

While I’m not all men, I am still one of them. — I am one of those men. I’m one of those men who seems like they have it together, but barely does most days. I’m one of those men who is doing their best with what they have, and what they’ve been given. I’m one of those men. While I’m not all men, I am still one of them. I’m one of those men who is often confused. …

We all like being at choice, and those who offer it — I’ve learned a lot from co-hosting cuddle gatherings over the years. While these events are strictly platonic, connective, and a lot of fun, they can also bring up a lot of considerations around consent, boundaries, and what it means to be intimate, while not romantic, with other humans. It’s been an impactful process of holding space, playful presence, and seeing where…

We’re stronger together, and the time is now. Benevolent, Brave, Aware, Loving, Bold… Many words can be used to describe what it means to be a healthy empowered man in today’s modern world. The one that speaks to me most though, is Brotherhood. The importance of men coming together during these times is unquestionable. For…

Sometimes it means letting go of what’s important for the sake of what is essential. I remember as a child, how much I enjoyed playing games with clear rules. Games like dodgeball, chess, and even tag seemed to have plainly understood guidelines for how everyone plays together. As I’ve grown up, I’ve realized how little the structure and contained experiences of childhood games represent…