How Consent is Good For Every-Body
We all like being at choice, and those who offer it
I’ve learned a lot from co-hosting cuddle gatherings over the years.
While these events are strictly platonic, connective, and a lot of fun, they can also bring up a lot of considerations around consent, boundaries, and what it means to be intimate, while not romantic, with other humans.
It’s been an impactful process of holding space, playful presence, and seeing where my own edges lay.
As the importance of consent continues to be at the forefront of our collective consciousness, something I notice that comes up for me is the question of what it means for me to ask for consent, not so much in regards to gender issues, but simply in the idea of what it means to be at choice and freedom.
I believe, on a deep level, we all like being at choice.
Often, something as simple as hugging someone, rubbing their shoulders, or seemingly doing something nice for them when they haven’t asked can be welcome, meaningful, and innocent gestures of connection.
The shadow aspect of this is we also often accept things from others more so because it’s what’s expected, rather than being something we’re actually a yes to.
